Last Longer in Bed - 9 Try It Tonight Techniques

We'll discuss some techniques which you can use instantly to last longer. Don't see them as a PE cure, though in the long run these techniques can kinda cure PE by retraining your body and also lowering anxiety because you did not cum too soon in the previous sessions.

Before writing long articles and instructions to cure PE (which I'll do soon), you can use these techniques tonight to last a little more. These are 'try it tonight techniques'. The better you do this, the more you'll last longer in bed.

You might not feel great pleasure in the initial times, but soon you'll learn to do the techniques without compromising pleasure once you master them (of course, it will happen in a month).

TRY IT TONIGHT TECHNIQUES

1. Slow Down, Partner

Try It Tonight Technique No. 1: Slow Down, Partner

Take things slowly. Longer foreplay - this can be very beneficial; you'll loose the high-spirit and temptation to cum after a long foreplay. You'll become less sensitive to touch after a long foreplay. For her, it is not just penetration, it is something deeper. You have to caress every lock of her hair, every inch of her body.

Thrust slowly. Any girl would love slow, sensual stuff than a hard, fast and rough one especially when you cum too soon in the latter. Once she experiences a sensual lovemaking, she is likely to prefer sensual one to faster ones.

Further, slow performance can help you observe your sensations rather than increasing till climax and put a sudden brake to the session. Knowing you body's sensations can help you in the long-run to become Multi-Orgasmic.

Notes:

1. If you go slow, you'll have a stronger, mind-blowing orgasm and may be a powerful ejaculation too.

2. Going slow can help you do all other techniques better.

Reference:

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2. Relax All The Way

Try It Tonight Technique No. 2: Relax All The Way

Have you noticed during masturbation or when on bed that you actually contract the muscles in the pelvic region? Most PE men do this, especially if the cause of their problem is not medical. When you are very close to ejaculating you are likely to have many contractions in the pelvic region. It is one aspect of nearing to ejaculation.

Try relaxing those pelvic muscles, also called PC Muscle.

There is a type of 'forced relaxing' of those muscles called 'Reverse Kegelling', which for many people, might need practice. It is actually forcing you not to contract. Read about Reverse Kegel Exercises.

And why don't you try relax your full body and enjoy the sensations? It would be better to have a relaxed body and a super-cool mind.

Notes:

1. Do Nirmal Stiti Meditation or Triangular Breathing Meditation before the 'act' to relax you off.

2. This can also help you to observe your body and get to know what happens to your body while the act so as to help you with Easy Practice Techniques to last longer in bed.

3. Deep Breathing or Triangle Breathing

Try It Tonight Technique No. 3: Deep Breathing or Triangle Breathing

Breathe deeply during the act. Don't forget to 'Breathe the Correct Way' (Ctrl + Click on it to open). Breathe from the belly.  Yes, do it now. Feel the air fill your lungs as your belly enlarges (not your chest).

This can provide more oxygen which directly lowers your heartbeat rate, tension and anxiety.

Why don't you try the Triangle Breathing? 5 second inhale, hold for 5 seconds, 5 second exhale. If you have the capacity, you can use 7 or 12 or more instead of 5 seconds.

Triangle Breathing can help you keep track of the breathing. Once you get better, you can let deep, belly breathing happen on its own. You can move on and concentrate on your sensations to know 'em better and be a good lover.

Notes:

1. If you relax as in the previous tip, you'll be able to do this better.

2. Don't get exhausted from too deep a breath. This will take all your excitement, though getting exhausted can help last longer.

4. Tongue Technique

Try It Tonight Technique No. 4: Tongue Technique

Run the tip of the tongue against the roof of the mouth in a circular motion. An easy way to last. You don't believe me, do you? This technique actually works not by distracting you from the event, but by tuning the bodily sensation apart from that 'down there'. Instant and easy technique.

I had better use of this when I suck in and create a suction with the tongue. This makes an energy pathway to move the 'Yang Ching Chi' (or just 'ching') up the spinal cord. (This is a Chinese explanation)

So the next time you do, don't forget to use the tongue before it's too late.

Notes:

1. Don't consider it a myth.

5. Her On Top

Try It Tonight Technique No. 5: Her on Top

This one is actually a well known technique, yet not much in use. Try some positions in which she is on top and in control. She'll try positions that will make her day, than yours. You'll be less sensitive to her positions. Well of course, if she is a type who wants it 'harder baby, faster' then it might not help you focus. But you bet, any girl would want it slow. You can initiate things slowly, and so she is likely to do things slowly. You can always suggest her to go slow.

Notes:

1. This can also help you to do many other techniques better, especially Try It Tonight Technique 7.

2. One reason is because you're relieved of some 'work'.

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Eyes wide, focused on top

6. Eyes Wide Technique

Try It Tonight Technique No. 6: Eyes Wide Technique

Ever tried opening your eyes wide during the full performance? Do it, man. Better focus the eyes on the top. A little known technique indeed.

Notes:
1. You might not get it very easy in the beginning though. Get used to it.
2. It is an excellent combination with Try It Tonight Technique No. 6: Tongue Technique.

7. Legs Wide Position

Try It Tonight Technique No. 7: Legs Wide Position

You usually say 'spread her legs and do it'. Why don't 'you' try it? Why don't you spread 'your' legs and do it? Keep in mind to open your anus, for that's the point here. This ensures more blood flow down there, and to do 'forced relaxing' mentioned in Try It Tonight Technique No. 2: Relax All The Way. In Taoist perspective, this position allows 'ching' another pathway (anus) to escape from the body.

Notes:
1. This is a surefire way when you combine it with Try It Tonight Technique No. 2: Relax All The Way. 

8. Math Technique

Try It Tonight Technique No. 8: Math Technique (not recommended)

Well, you do some mental math. Count back from 200 skipping 3 numbers like 200...197...194... or do multiplication tables of tougher numbers like 12, 13, 17, 19, etc. I don't recommend this because you won't learn about your body when you are preoccupied with Mathematics. You've to actually observe your body to cure PE with yoga and exercises. You won't enjoy the physical relation, but its better than being awful in bed. But remember, you have to be 'in the moment'. Would you like if your partner is doing this during the act? Same for her.

Notes:
1. Don't use the same table or pattern always. You know why.
2. You might even cure PE if you do this in the long run to last longer, because you might have retrained your body to cum later.

9. Food Technique

Try It Tonight Technique No. 9: Food Technique (not recommended)

Eat tons of 'fatty' foods and become fat. Fat men last roughly about 7 minutes longer. The reason is that they have more oestrogen (female hormone) in them that slows their way to orgasm. I don't know, but I think if you inject oestrogen, may be you'll last instantly. This is tricky but I recommend it the least. I don't even like to write it here because I hate this technique and of course it is not much of a 'Try It Now' but quite easy. Consider this just for your knowledge.

Notes:
1. If you're thin, keep a well balanced diet and become moderate in size. Needn't go too fat to last a little longer.

Food For Thought:
1. Are most PE men thin? I think so.

Reverse Kegel Exercises

Just push out you pelvic muscles. This is exactly the opposite of Regular Kegels in the previous article. You are going to mimic the muscle movements of the opposite things - when you want to force out a fart, or when you want to pass out your urine faster, or when you push out while emptying your bowels. I have added this in 'Try It Tonight Techniques' to last longer in bed, but you can get it better with exercises.

•  As initial workout and to know them better, you've to learn and practice while urinating and when you want to pass gas.
• Quick Push: Push your PC muscles and hold for 1 second and rest for 1 second. This is one rep. You needn't do this with much force. Of course, you might fart once or twice.
• Slow/Medium Push: Push PC muscles and hold for 15 second and rest for 5 seconds. 
• Long Push: Push PC muscles and hold for 1 minute and rest for 1 minute. Gradually increase to 2 minutes.

Do the following:

• Quick Push: 20-200 reps daily. Add 10 reps per week. When you're under 100 reps a day, do twice daily.
• Slow/Medium Push: 5-50 reps daily. Add 3 reps per week.
• Long Push: 1-5 reps daily. Add 1 every 14 days. Do 1 minute push in the first week of a rep. Increase the time to 1.5 minutes or 2 minutes after the first week of the same rep. Next rep, 1 minute in the first week again. Got it? If not, please comment. I'll come up with some other way to explain it.
• In Reality: Do Long Push during the act. Better to keep you legs wid so as to open up your anus. Reasons why this works:

1. From the Taoist perspective, what happens here is it gives way for the 'ching' to go out through the anal passage. Didn't I mention that it would be better if you use a position such that your anus is open slightly? This position pushes out the 'ching'
2. From the scientific view, this position allows blood flow in the pelvic region rather that tapping the blood in the penis.

More techniques coming soon.

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PC Muscles - Prerequisite Knowledge to Cure PE

The pubococcygeus muscle (pyoo-bo-cock-se-gee-us muscle) or PC muscle is a hammock-like muscle, found in both gender, that stretches from the pubic bone to the coccyx (tail bone) forming the floor of the pelvic cavity and supporting the pelvic organs.  The Pubococcygeus muscle controls urine flow and contracts during orgasm. It also aids in urinary control and childbirth as well as core stability.

A strong PC muscle has also been linked to a reduction in urinary incontinence and proper positioning of the baby's head during childbirth. It also supports the physical part of orgasmic and ejaculatory control. For us, we can deal with orgasmic and ejaculatory control.

Wikipedia quotes: “orgasm is controlled by the involuntary, or autonomic, limbic system, and is accompanied by quick cycles of muscle contraction in the lower pelvic muscles, which surround the primary sexual organs and the anus.”

As they used the word ‘involuntary’, don’t assume that you can’t control anything. They mean to say that once orgasm has started (or you’ve reached the ‘point of no return’), there is no stopping in it. And they have used ‘muscle contractions’. These muscle contractions are actually the physical side of orgasm. And these muscles (PC muscle) contract not only during orgasm, but throughout the session, or at least in the latter phases. This is very noticeable in people with Premature Ejaculation (PE).

My point is, if you use good control over your developed and strong PC muscles, you can delay orgasm and ejaculation, and if you use better and timely control over your well-developed and strong PC muscle, you can achieve orgasm(s) without ejaculation, and achieve multiple orgasms. We’ll have separate articles for multiple orgasms. Though both (delaying, and multiple orgasms) are Premature Ejaculation (PE) cures, this section deals with delaying orgasm and ejaculation to last longer in bed.

In the following articles, we’ll discuss about the Premature Ejaculation (PE) cures to last longer in bad with easy practice techniques:

Kegel Exercises (Please read the full article from the link) : Wikipedia quotes Kegel Exercise as "A pelvic floor exercise, more commonly called a Kegel exerciseconsists of contracting and relaxing the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor"; and as "Exercises are usually done to reduce urinary incontinence and aid with childbirth in women, and reduce premature ejaculatory occurrences in men, as well as increase the size and intensity of erections."

Reverse Kegel Exercises (Please read the full article from the link) : This is exactly the opposite of Regular Kegels in the previous article. You are going to mimic the muscle movements of the opposite things - when you want to force out a fart, or when you want to pass out your urine faster, or when you push out while emptying your bowels. I have added this in 'Try It Tonight Techniques' to last longer in bed, but you can get it better with exercises. These exercises are easier, and if done during masturbation or on bed, you might see instant effects and last longer.

I have given only small descriptions here. Please read the full articles for more info and Procedures for Exercises. Watch out for coming articles.

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Kegel Exercises

Wikipedia quotes Kegel Exercise as "A pelvic floor exercise, more commonly called a Kegel exercise consists of contracting and relaxing the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor"; and as "Exercises are usually done to reduce urinary incontinence and aid with childbirth in women, and reduce premature ejaculatory occurrences in men, as well as increase the size and intensity of erections."

You got it?

OK, now we shall move on to do these exercises. I want you to do Kegel Exercises to strengthen your PC muscles that reside in the area between the scrotal bag and the anus. We normally use it to prevent/stop the flow of urine, pass gas, etc.

To correctly locate it, when you pee next time, stop the flow. Can you feel a muscle in the area I mentioned contract? That's your PC muscle. 

• As an initial workout and to know about the PC, stop the flow of urine and hold it for about 5 seconds. Do this 7 times you pee once. Make it a habit. You'll learn much about the PC and to do it correctly in a couple of days. This is easier than you think, believe me.
• Quick Squeeze: Clench your PC muscle very tightly and hold so for 2 seconds and relax (not when you pee). Rest for 1 second. This counts as one repetition. Do this whenever, wherever you please. I believe its better to keep aside some minutes exclusively for PC workouts. This can help you know about PC muscles better.
• Slow/Medium Squeeze: Clench your PC muscle tightly for 15 seconds and relax for 5 seconds.
• Long Squeeze: Clench you PC muscle tightly for at least a minute and rest for 1 minute. 

Do the following:

• Quick Squeeze: 20-400 reps daily. Add 10 reps per week. When you're under 100 reps a day, do twice daily.
• Slow/Medium Squeeze: 10-50 reps daily. Add 3-5 reps per week.
• Long Squeeze: 1-5 reps daily. Add 1 every 14 days. Do 1 minute squeeze in the first week of a rep. Increase the time to 1.5 minutes or 2 minutes after the first week of the same rep. Next rep, 1 minute in the first week again. Got it? If not, please comment. I'll come up with some other way to explain it.

These are basic PC muscle exercises. Like any other muscle, this needs practice. You have to get well-toned PC muscles. Within 2 months of this, you'll get extra strong PC muscles. You'll soon gain control of your arousal, have intense orgasms, powerful ejaculations, greater ability to achieve multiple orgasms, harder, longer erections, etc.

Do the following advanced exercises only after  practicing the above for at least a month. Now to the advanced stuff on PC exercises for rock-hard erections, intense orgasms and control like never before...

• Very Quick/Time Specific Kegels: (I named them so) You have to do PC flexes faster. Do 50 flexes in 30 seconds and increase to 80 flexes in 50 seconds and 100 flexes in 1 minute. Such exercises are rare to find in internet. So don't care about the name.
• Step/Level Kegels: (don't mind the name, :D) Contract the PC muscle step-by-step. That is, strengthen the hold gradually in steps rather than quick full kegels. You have to first contract with very less force. You'll feel it contract a little in the bottom-est part. Hold for 1 second. Without releasing the hold, use a little more force. Feel it contract a part higher. Another step done. Similarly, get to do a full kegel with 5 such small steps in about 5 to 7 seconds. Hold the full kegel for 5 seconds. Relax. This is one rep. Do about 5-30.
• Triangle Kegels: This is similar to Triangle Breathing Meditation. Take 5 second to a full kegel (in steps or in a flow), 5 second hold, 5 second release. And why not incorporate Triangle Breathing Mediation to this? Inhale while contracting, hold the breath while holding the muscle, exhale while releasing the muscle. This is one rep. Do 10-30 reps. Read about Triangle Breathing Meditaiton from here.

You should not stop doing all those exercises even after lasting longer in bed. You've keep doing this. This can boost your libido, and get rock-hard erections like never before. After some months, you'll know those areas in the PC muscle that need special attention and will learn to concentrate more on them.

NB: Its a good option to not exercise you PC and rest every 10th day. Of course adjust the no. of days with the exercise.

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Last Longer in Bed - Easy Practice Techniques

We'll discuss some more of those 'Last Longer in Bed Techniques', but these are a little advanced. You need to practice these techniques before you get the fruits. This doesn't mean that they are too difficult, just that you need to get on with it. But yes, they are difficult than those easy 'Try It Tonight Techniques'. In order to not bore you with a long article, I had cut down the article with links to explanations of the respective tips.

But before that, it is necessary to understand some prerequisite information.

PREREQUISITE KNOWLEDGE

PC Muscles (Please read the full article from the link) :  The pubococcygeus muscle (pyoo-bo-cock-se-gee-us muscle)or PC muscle is a hammock-like muscle, found in both gender, that stretches from the pubic bone to the coccyx (tail bone) forming the floor of the pelvic cavity and supporting the pelvic organs.  The Pubococcygeus muscle controls urine flow and contracts during orgasm. It also aids in urinary control and childbirth as well as core stability. If you use good control over your developed and strong PC muscles, you can delay orgasm and ejaculation, and if you use better and timely control over your well-toned, strong PC muscles, you can achieve orgasm(s) without ejaculation, and achieve multiple orgasms.

TIPS

1. Kegel Exercises (Please read the full article from the link) : Wikipedia quotes Kegel Exercise as "A pelvic floor exercise, more commonly called a Kegel exerciseconsists of contracting and relaxing the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor"; and as "Exercises are usually done to reduce urinary incontinence and aid with childbirth in women, and reduce premature ejaculatory occurrences in men, as well as increase the size and intensity of erections."

2. Reverse Kegel Exercise (Please read the full article from the link) : This is exactly the opposite of Regular Kegels in the previous article. You are going to mimic the muscle movements of the opposite things - when you want to force out a fart, or when you want to pass out your urine faster, or when you push out while emptying your bowels. I have added this in 'Try It Tonight Techniques' to last longer in bed, but you can get it better with exercises. These exercises are easier, and if done during masturbation or on bed, you might see instant effects and last longer.

I have given only small descriptions here. Please read the full articles for more info and Procedures for Exercises. Watch out for coming articles.

Premature Ejaculation (PE) - A Brief Appraisal

Premature Ejaculation (PE) is one of the major concerns for many men. It is the 'ejaculation during the early stages of excitement or soon after the insertion of the penis into the vagina'.

A person suffering from PE can’t last longer before he climaxes in bed (or masturbation). He can’t last longer in bed. He and his partner (if any) do not attain fulfilment and become dissatisfied. 

Did You Know...

 Studies reveal that more than 60% of men suffer this affliction at some point during their life?

The female partner, due to constant dissatisfaction, soon finds it better to not bed with him. And know if you don’t: ‘a typical man is worried about his partner’s satisfaction than of himself’. And she’ll build up frustration and this might lead to difficulties and misunderstanding in the relationship. 

For the man, he becomes over-worried of the fact that his partner is dissatisfied and he’ll also suffer from frustration he might become a failure in other aspects of life if he is worried about it (of course, he is likely to be worried about it). The relationship is ruined when they are deep in misunderstandings and distrust.

CAUSE

• A person usually acquires PE from wrong practices of masturbation. A boy, when he discovers from books or personal experimentation that urine is not the only thing that comes out through his penis, becomes afraid or even amazed. Soon he’ll find the practice of masturbation pleasurable. He’ll learn that his parents and the society and his religion would not approve of this behaviour. And what happens? He’ll try to get it off when parents are out at the grocer’s, shopping, etc. or even in the next room. And his major concern is to finish before they comes in to the room. He’ll find certain muscle contractions and positions that’ll help get off as quickly as possible. This is a form of Darwin’s Theory of Evolution – changing one body’s physiology to suit the needs of or to survive in the environment. This will train his body to ejaculate soon and he becomes a PE.

• Another cause is purely medical. This must be treated by way of medicines. 

• He’ll discover soon that this is not really the fulfilment. If not, when he is with a partner, he’ll soon learn this. Many of such people end up leading to failures in relationships and/or googling for remedies. This creates anxiety before and during the act leading to the further worsening of PE and this is the mental cause of the problem.

TREATMENT

Premature Ejaculation is surely treatable. A person with PE must treat it too before its too late and end up physical intimacy.

* If the cause of his premature ejaculation is masturbation, his body and mind will be inclined to cumming quickly, he can cure it by retraining his body’s physiology and mind to cum later.

This can be done by specific exercises which increase the strength and endurance of his pelvic muscles and also train it to avoid unnecessary contractions.

His belief in the exercises and small improvements in the beginning can cure some mental part of the problem. We'll soon discuss about many such exercises and routines.

* PE can be treated by different exercise methods and techniques. Here, they aim not only curing PE, but also become multi-orgasmic. He’ll learn to have multiple orgasms but no ejaculation; or multiple orgasms where the last one is accompanied by ejaculation. This can help him achieve orgasmic heights and fulfil a great task – unification of the male and female part of the person. Of course, we'll discuss about becoming multi-orgasmic very soon.

* If his premature ejaculation is due to certain problems or as side-effects of medicines, this must be treated by way of medicines. Nevertheless, if he practices yoga daily and make it an integral part of his life, almost all his illness will be cured, including PE. But this can take at least more than a couple of years. 

So watch out for the coming articles...

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Masturbation

Masturbation, or primarily touching oneself is considered perfectly normal by doctors, psychologists, etc. Its an easy way to learn your body and please oneself. You can get off the already built-up 'ching' tension without committing physical relations with partner. So you can get off without harming others.

But if done the wrong way and frequency, well, masturbation is bad for health. You're going to read the side-effects of masturbation.

• Getting obsessed with masturbation is the major psychological issue here. Some people can't sleep without getting it once or twice or more a day. Their need is rather a psychological concern and should be cured.

• Another problem is that the high frequency can lead to energy losses. And you're spilling the seed, energy each time. You'll get sick, weak, etc. If you do when you've slight fever, you bet it'll worsen your fever; because you wasted life energy.

• Another problem with masturbation, if done the wrong way, is premature ejaculation (PE). Almost 60% of males suffer from this. They eject semen soon after started stimulating themselves and will leave themselves dissatisfied. This, if you're with a partner, will leave them dissatisfied too, because you finish a long time before they could possibly be satisfied. Read more about PE from here. Read the 'Try It tonight Techniques' to last longer in bed from here. Remember, this is not a promising cure to PE, but it works.

The bottom line is,

'If you have not started masturbating, then don't. If you have already started, stop it A-S-A-P. If you have started and you became a premature ejaculation, it would be better to cure your disease by many techniques that include masturbating in different ways and then stop masturbating.'

The techniques, of course we'll discuss soon. And when you master the techniques, you'll be better that you were before becoming a premature ejaculator.

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